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How to be more Confident and My own Struggles with Comprehending Self Worth

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I'm probably the last person you want to hear 'advice' from when it comes to confidence so.. why am I even bothering? Am I the most confident person in the world? Do I know the secret tips and hacks to have more self worth?


Yes and no.

I often refer to my past, even though one shouldn't, I like to give myself a pat on the back from how far I've come. When it comes to confidence it all stems from being exposed to a stimulus and still being able to analyze and act accordingly. This doesn't mean that I can't improve my own being and confidence - I'm still learning and growing as a person but here are some broadened perspectives when trying to comprehend one's own self confidence.


1. The world doesn't revolve around you

There's a saying when you're 12, you think the world cares about you.. 
when you're 24 you start not giving a _______, and when you're old and withering
away you realized that no one in the world cared about you in the first place and you 
should've just done whatever it was that you wanted to do.. 

I remember as a kid I tried so hard to get people to like me, and when someone 
disliked or even hated me, I was shocked. I thought, ''I'm the most down to earth 
person in the world, how can someone dislike me?'' So I tried so hard and I got so far
but in the end.. wait let me get back on track here. 

Pleasing everyone, being fake, and catering to everyone's need so I could be ''liked.'' 
This pretty much summed up a large portion of my early years. As I got older, I realized
I would much rather have someone hate for me being me, than someone like me because
I acted a certain way. From Humple The Poet (YouTube him)... ''confidence is when
you know everyone in the world does not like you.. and you're okay with that.''

2. Self-awareness

Being able to step back from your emotions and realize that your ego, anger, heat-of-the-moment, or whatever you want to call it - is simply just a knee-jerk primitive behavior which can be stopped - is one of the things I still try to work on. 

You're not your mind - crazy talk; I know. But your thoughts and emotions are malleable which is a good and bad thing. You fixate on one thing and it builds momentum. Being able to learn from your mistakes and grow as person, but at the same time being able to actualize that at times you're not at your best - and that's okay. As long as you still strive for how better you were the day before. 

3. ACTION

It's easy to read all this new-age stuff, it's easy to say making videos on internet from a non-existent audience is a piece of cake, it's easy to say x, y, z. But if you can't back up your words with action, then who are you to tell me what I can or cannot do? We learn more by doing then thinking. But it's a combination of knowledge, initiative, and awareness - that's when growth happens. Take for example, you want a six pack. You know all the nutritional data, you know the proper exercises, but guess what? You never touched a weight in your life and all you eat is donuts and french fries. 

The Four Agreements is a book I'd recommend by Ruiz which are things I try to live by:
be impeccable with your word, don't take things personally, don't make assumptions, and always do your best - but are coincidentally related to being yourself and confident. 




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